This is a question that I would like an answer for myself. Being a full time husband and father as well as working full time and going to school time is a lot of “full time” responsibilities. There is a lot to do and a lot of people looking to you to make it all work. At times the stress of it all can be overwhelming. I knew going into this that adding school full time on top of the rest was going to have it stresses. I can deal with that because I have a reason that I am taking all of this onto myself. In case any of you where wondering I did not leave a job that I loved where I was raking in the cash. My family and I were struggling financial as well as emotionally. Financial stress coupled with not being happy in your work is not a fun place to be. I knew that a change had to be made and that my best way of finding a good paying job that I would also enjoy and that would have a sense of satisfaction was going to go out and get the skills necessary to make it happen for myself. I could not do any of this without the support of my wife and it is for my wife and kids that I am working so hard right now to create a better future for not only myself but for them as well. Taking care of them is what drives me.
The one thing that makes this sacrifice worth it is the outcome I hope to get and as long as I have that goal in site it makes it easier to put forth the extra effort. The hard part begins when uncertainty of the outcome becomes in question. I do not want to lose what I have trying to create something a better life for us all. At the end of the day if I lose my wife over this then it will all have been for not. Finding the balance of working, school and family, with maintaining and growing my relationship with my wife and taking time for myself is a hard thing to do, but it is absolutely vital. If any one area starts to fall behind you risk losing it. At times it seems to me that the areas that ends up sacrificing the most is myself. It is hard to take time for myself when there are so many other things that need my time and attention let alone the things that are not getting done at all. Sometimes I just don’t know how to do it all. I guess even Superman needs help from time to time.
So the challenge this week is finding the right balance in life and making sure you take some time for yourself to unwind and recharge the batteries.